What it’s really like to be a writer and a mother

The decision to take on writing full-time has not been an easy one. I’ve come to the realization that one does not need to invest a lot of money into fancy furniture but creating a private writing space is a must. Whether that space is a pool table in your basement, a closet, a niche inside your bedroom or a random corner in the hallway, it needs to be yours. Writers need private moments in their own spaces to create.

That said, what happens when you settle down for a long writing session in your “writing cave” and your child wants your undivided attention?

Do you allow that spark of creativity or an idea that was on the tip of our tongue seconds earlier vanish? Or do you throw the babe off your lap and buy their silence with cookies? That is the very real reality of being a writer and also a mother.

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My Rustic Writing Desk

As I previously discussed, writing isn’t about having a fancy desk, you do need to have a space to call your own (and it really helps when that space isn’t a place where you’re quite literally hunched over your laptop.) After a year of doing just that, I finally decided it was time to invest in a desk. I spent many weeks scouring Joss & Main, Facebook Marketplace, Ikea and Target. I wasn’t sure what I wanted. I was between a rustic gray/brown wood desk or an ultra-modern white desk. You see, I already picked out the chair. So I needed a desk that would match the chair but also my aesthetic. I very much have a simple, clean and rustic aesthetic. I adore all white but my heart was leaning towards a rustic wood style.

One Sunday, after a particularly long search I exclaimed, “why is wood so expensive, it has to be cheaper to make my own.” It got me thinking, could I make my own? My husband has the capability to do so, my Dad has most of the tools and I already know how to stain. After a bit of googling, I came across Shanty 2 Chic. When I tell you I was blown away by their pieces, that’s an understatement. They were claiming you could make gorgeous rustic pieces for as low as $55. Here’s the thing about their pieces, they’re rustic perfection with the most gorgeous gray/brown stain I’ve ever seen. Ultimately, that was the problem with some of the reasonably priced desks I admired, the color wasn’t what I was looking for. I was being particularly picky about the color. I wanted gray but with cool brown undertones. Think Ikea’s Hemnes dark gray stained pieces but way more rustic. After spending a few days convincing my husband he could definitely do this, he consented.

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I finally decided what I want to be when I grow up

Like most people my age, I have a Linked In and a ZipRecruiter app on my phone, I spend most of my work days grumbling about there being better ways to make money and I’m constantly on the verge of deciding which path to take.

After the internal debates and the research, I always come back to a particular path and just stand there. I never know if I should take the leap. I like to tell myself that it’s the lack of a desk and chair, a private space and a newer computer. But really, it’s none of those things. It’s me. I’m holding myself back.

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